One of those things that is often both slightly overvalued and underappreciated is personality.
Although being described as having a “wonderful personality” is sometimes done so as a sly compliment, there are times when this is really the reality.
Being attractive will undoubtedly draw attention to you, but what will keep those eyes on you is a great personality.
How can you tell whether you have a lovely personality then?
Here are some of the common themes I’ve seen after spending time with individuals that I can confidently state possess this particular quality:
1) People Are Always Drawn To You
Yes, I’m not only talking about features; a wonderful personality also makes for an appealing individual.
People will always be attracted to someone with a truly attractive personality.
They’re a soothing presence in a world that is generally fast-paced and disorienting, which is uncommon in today’s society.
It’s not necessary for this attraction to be romantic or even something the other person is aware of.
Since spending time with someone who has a really attractive personality is always enjoyable, people tend to naturally flock toward them.
It’s a good indication that you have a lovely personality if others actually like simply being around you.
2) You Laugh Often
It’s not necessarily true that being humorous means you have a lovely personality, but beautiful individuals always know how to laugh at themselves.
Knowing when to laugh at something and not taking life (or yourself) too seriously has a lot of value, and a beautiful personality embraces this trait.
Laughing often demonstrates emotional maturity since it shows that you are aware of the circumstances that call for a lighter undertone.
You’ll constantly be urged to join in their laughter by those with lovely personalities that laugh with you.
3) You Have Great Listening Skills
You start to acquire a gift for talks when others gravitate toward you because of your personality, especially when it comes to listening to what they have to say.
People with attractive personalities are thus often outstanding listeners in their own right, giving the impression that they value and appreciate what others have to say.
Speaking with someone who has a lovely personality is never dull, and you never have to be concerned about the impression you’re making on them with your words.
Because you don’t really have to keep yourself back from stating what you mean while speaking with these folks, it’s easy to express your ideas without feeling self-conscious.
4) People Have Positive First Impressions of You
When you meet someone who has a wonderful personality, you may compare it to a kind of makeup that lets you know they’re going to be fun to be around.
People with attractive personalities often create the finest impressions because they always put their best foot forward and don’t worry about doing so.
Even if nothing else, a person with this personality always makes you enjoy your first encounter with them, regardless of the circumstance or activity.
Even if these characteristics or attributes aren’t expressed verbally, everyone can always sense an open, honest, and genuine demeanor.
5) You’re Patient With Others
I’ve always been in awe of folks who can tolerate all the unpredictable and, let’s face it, irritating things life and other people may throw at them.
Beautiful personalities are patient people.
These individuals are aware that certain things need a bit more attention than others, therefore they make the additional effort and time to address these needs.
That’s often best shown by their patience and recognition that certain things are just worth waiting for – a characteristic that’s uncommon in a lot of individuals.
6) You’re Content With Your Own Company
Being lonely is a strong feeling that may make individuals act in many different ways, not all of which are healthy.
People with attractive personalities, on the other hand, don’t often struggle with this issue; they are satisfied in their own company and seldom find themselves in social settings they don’t want to be in.
They don’t succumb to FOMO or any other cultural pressure to be, well, sociable, but it doesn’t mean they’re loner or antisocial.
These individuals don’t feel the need to overly animate the situation or seek for outside diversions since they are at ease in their own company.
In fact, they will sometimes relish the opportunity to be by themselves and will gladly impart to you the importance of doing the same.
7) Different Perspectives Don’t Bother You
Beautiful personalities are not self-centered.
They’ll never believe that everything is about them, and when necessary, they can readily sympathize with others, which is merely something I’ve learnt through meeting individuals that possess this quality.
A person with a lovely personality recognizes that every individual approaches life with a unique set of assumptions, justifications, and attitudes.
They never hold it against somebody and are always willing to listen to or take into consideration viewpoints that are divergent from their own.
8) You Have Self-Awareness And Understanding
When you first meet someone with a wonderful personality, you’ll see right away that they don’t overextend themselves or let their natural impulses get the better of them.
These individuals don’t push things they can’t or shouldn’t push in the first place because they recognize who they are, what they can accomplish, and how it all fits with everyone else.
In fact, I attempt to learn from individuals like them in order to understand who I am as a person.
You’ll rapidly get an appreciation for things you would have previously taken for granted by discovering who you are, what you’re capable of, and what lies in between those two things.
Even though it’s a very subtle quality, most individuals struggle to exhibit it.
9) You’re In Healthy Emotional Relationships
People with attractive personalities frequently have good emotional interactions with both themselves and other people because they are aware of the significance of emotions and how they influence both parties.
This is somewhat due to the fact that others are naturally attracted to them, but it’s also a quality that has been softened by their life experiences.
I never have to feel like I have to apologize for having a specific emotion when I’m with these people.
Mind you, they don’t exactly urge me to let my sentiments run wild; rather, they’re more concerned with my not being very aware of them due to cultural or societal expectations.
Understanding your emotions and how they interact with others is a certain indicator of having a lovely personality, and it’s a quality that more people need to strive for.
10) You Pay Attention To Detail
Sometimes the most important things are those that go unspoken most of the time.
Although someone with a lovely personality will have excellent listening abilities, they may also get information from other context clues.
One of the reasons why spending time with these folks can be such a blast for everyone involved is because of their attention to detail.
This focus on detail extends beyond only private matters.
You typically get trust in the workplace and other social settings if you have this kind of personality.
People naturally flock toward you because they have faith in your ability to uphold your principles while still doing the task at hand, which is essential for establishing and sustaining a strong work ethic.
11) You’re Driven By Initiative, Not External Cues
Last but not least, a person with a beautiful personality acts on their agency, or their capacity to act without needing to wait for a signal or justification from someone else.
They take the initiative to get things done, care about the outcomes before being informed of the stakes, and generally assume responsibility for ensuring that everything goes according to plan for everyone.
This approach is particularly commendable since it may be all too tempting to merely sit around waiting for someone to ultimately prod you into action—something these folks don’t need at all.
They still recognize the value of having fun and taking a vacation, but when the time comes, they can simply switch to taking care of business.